Sex Positions for Pregnancy
Sex during pregnancy may feel a little… awkward. The body is going through so many beautiful changes during this time, but some people may not feel as “sexy” or have as high of a drive as they used to, and that’s totally okay! However, it’s generally safe to have sex while pregnant and can feel great if you’re up for it! Sex can help relieve pain/cramping, boost mood, improve sleep, and promote closeness and intimacy with your partner. Sex may help progress labor as well!
Positions that may have been comfortable when you weren’t pregnant or TTC might not feel so great anymore. Think missionary, for instance. Some people find that laying flat on their back for longer periods of time can begin feel uncomfortable in later stages of pregnancy. And, as the baby bump grows, it can start to feel like it’s getting in the way. The same goes for when you are laying on your stomach.
Here are some alternative positions that can be more comfortable to try:
From behind or “doggy style”
This position keeps pressure off the belly, you can even see partner holding belly which can help the pregnant partner stay more comfortable.This position is best during first and second trimesters. It may not feel as comfortable being on all fours during your last two months of pregnancy.
On top
A recent study found that pregnant women who are able to control penetration by being on top of the partner reported increased sexual satisfaction. You can adjust for comfort by widening your stance or leaning back to keep belly weight from tilting you forward.
Spooning
Side lying is a comforting position where the partner holds and usually penetrates the pregnant partner from behind while lying down, both facing away from each other. This position can work well during all trimester, but especially during later in 2nd and 3rd trimerts as this position can help put less pressure on the belly.
“Reverse cowgirl”
Reverse cowgirl involves the pregnant partner straddling the other and is typically easier on the pregnant person’s hips, if hip discomfort is present. If this position is one of your favorites, you may be able to adjust by leaning back and positioning your arms behind you for support.This position is great to keep your stomach from being compressed or touched, if you’re sensitive there.
Standing
If under 20 weeks, a standing position works if your partner is holding you around the waist. After 20 weeks, I recommend using a wall or furniture as something to lean for balance support, as you may feel more unstable as the belly grows.
Side by Side
Similar to spooning, except you’re facing each other. For any pregnant person, positions on their side tend to feel better and they can prop up their bellies with extra pillows or a rolled-up towel. In the picture, you see their legs are crossed with each other, but the pregnant partners legs can be perpendicular in this position as well. This position is great for all trimesters as it allows for you or your pregnant partner to rest on your sides without putting the pressure on the stomach.
Other tips for comfort:
Play with stacking pillows or using different furniture (couch, chair, edge of bed) as props to find a comfortable position
Lubricant- I recommend Slippery Stuff, Sliquid, or Uberlube. Do not use silicone or oil based lubes with toys or condoms!
Foreplay is key to comfortable and pleasurable penetration (if that’s what you want). Foreplay can look like kissing, cuddling, clitoral stimulation, or watching your partner do the dishes! 😂